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Archive for the ‘Avoider’ Category
Friday, August 6th, 2010
Tuesday, I talked about my client who admitted to being an avoider. He was able to sense a connection with his trusted employee Darrell leaking information and the fact that this man was in a distraught state in his personal life.
 So, my client decided to take Darrell for a coffee break and just find out what was going on. He was still upset that Darrell was mouthing off about a new product before it was time to let the proverbial cat out of the bag.
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Tags: Avoider, Communication, Communication Skills, Conflict, Conflict Resolution Skills, Listening, Resolution
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Friday, June 18th, 2010
In “Don’t Bring It to Work” I discuss the 13 behavior patterns that follow us from our original organization, the family into our work organization.
The BIG, I mean BIG question is “Why do we keep doing the same things over and over and over and over and over“?
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Tags: Avoider, Denier, Don't Bring It to Work, Family, Jon Stewart, Leaders, Observe, Organization, OUT Techinque, Pattern Spill, Patterns, Pleaser, Procrastinator, Transform, Understand, Workplace
Posted in Accountability, Avoider, Behavorial Patterns, Boss, Business, Collaboration, Communication, Conflict, Conflict resolution, Creative Energy Options, Economy, Education, Environment, Ethics, Executive Coaching, Executive Education, Executive Teams, Family, History, Innovative, Integrity, Leaders, Leadership, Leadership Development Programs, Media, PatternAware, Patterns, Politics, Splitter, Super Achiever, The media, Total Leadership Connections, Transformation, Trust, Truth, Victim, Workplace Relationships | No Comments »
Thursday, May 13th, 2010
Yesterday I received a call from a man who sounded super angry and incredibly tired. He said he was ready to close his very fiscally sound family carpet business because he could not stand the fighting anymore.
 “Who are you fighting with? I asked. “Oh, not me, I stay out of the fray, it’s everyone else.” “Hummmm” I said.
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Tags: Avoider, Conflict, Conflict resolution, Creativity, Family Business, Patterns, Truth
Posted in Avoider, Behavorial Patterns, Business, Coaching, Collaboration, Communication, Conflict, Conflict resolution, Creative, Family, Integrity, Leaders, Leadership, Leadership Development Programs, PatternAware, Patterns, Team Building, Total Leadership Connections, Truth, Workplace Relationships | 3 Comments »
Wednesday, April 21st, 2010
Tags: Anger, Avoidance, Business, Denial, Ethics, Leaders, Leadership
Posted in Avoider, Business, Communication, Conflict, Conflict resolution, Economy, Ethics, Executive Teams, Health, Integrity, Leaders, Leadership, Money, Patterns | No Comments »
Wednesday, March 24th, 2010
Sandra Bullock and Jesse James have put Tiger and the other philanderers on the back page. Soon their story will be replaced by another couple that can’t make it (i.e. the relationship) work.
Tags: Conflict resolution, Family-Based Patterns, Human, Jesse James, Patterns, Relationships, Sandra Bullock, Tiger Wood, Vicitm
Posted in Accountability, Avoider, Communication, Conflict, Conflict resolution, Family, Media, Patterns, Victim | 3 Comments »
Friday, February 26th, 2010
Stress and anxiety have been at the boiling point for the last year, and depending where you live, the weather has been the proverbial icing on the cake.
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Tags: Accountability, Anxiety, Behavioral Patterns, Blood pressure, Boss, Business, Coaching, Collaboration, Communication, Conflict, Consulting, Diabetes mellitus, Economy, Ethics, Family-Based Patterns, Health, Leaders, Leadership, Mental Health, Neuroscience, pattern aware, Physical exercise, Power, programs, Psychology, Relationships, Safe Stress Zone, Stress, Workplace Relationships
Posted in Accountability, Avoider, Boss, Business, Coaching, Collaboration, Communication, Conflict, Cultural Diversity, Diversity, Economy, Education, Employers, Ethics, Executive Teams, Family, Health, History, Human Resources, Leaders, Leadership, Management, Media, Money, Neuroscience, PatternAware, Patterns, Power, Psychology, Team Building, Transformation | 7 Comments »
Thursday, February 18th, 2010
 The following video has gone viral and is lots of fun to watch. It teaches some good lessons about the “first follower” as a leader. These early adapters are visionaries in their own right, and help make a movement happen.
In the video, we are talking about dancing at the beach: lots of fun and freedom and spontaneity. I would like to present a question and would love responses from all who are thinking about the ethics of followership.
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Tags: Arts, Bizarre, Dancing Guy, Dancing on the beach, Ethics, Follow the leader?, Health, Humor, Philosophy, Polarization, Recreation, Sound bite, TED conference
Posted in Accountability, Avoider, Boss, Business, Collaboration, Communication, Conflict, Consulting, Cultural Diversity, Diversity, Economy, Education, Employers, Ethics, Family, Health, History, Integrity, Leaders, Leadership, Management, Marital coaching, Media, Neuroscience, PatternAware, Patterns, Psychology, Reflections, Super Achiever, Team Building, The media, default | 4 Comments »
Tuesday, December 15th, 2009
Tiger Woods’ stories are touching almost every aspect of life in organizations today. Does he owe anything to the golfing community where he is seen as a CEO of sorts? Does he owe anything to his previously adoring public? Of course he owes much to his family, not just wife and children. What about his mother, and mother-in-law who fainted, assumingly from the stress, last week?
One area that could possibly shed some light on the issues of today would be to look at the life Tiger had as a youngster and how that has played out in his adult work-life. This is simply another perspective to consider. Having worked as a family therapist for years, I know first hand that what goes on in someone’s, anyone’s home, is multilayered and complex and cannot be analyzed into two simple categories of good Tiger, and bad Tiger.
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Tags: Accountability, Behavioral Patterns, Conflict, Ethics, Family therapy, Family-Based Patterns, Health, Leadership development, leadership programs, pattern aware, Psychology, Relationships, Stress, Wealth vs Health, Workplace Relationships
Posted in Accountability, Avoider, Coaching, Communication, Conflict, Consulting, Education, Employers, Fear, Health, History, Integrity, Leaders, Leadership, Money, PatternAware, Patterns, Power, The media, Uncategorized | 24 Comments »
Wednesday, July 15th, 2009
 The Avoider The avoider pattern is a BIG one. It is super prevalent in today’s culture as a way of handling conflict and stress. Avoiders are aware of problems, yet won’t talk about them. When listening to an avoider you will here “I’ll get back to you, I have to think about it, don’t call me I’ll call you, and the famous gotta go”.
Avoiders hate to be blamed for anything, and they are prone to walk away rather than admit responsibility for a problem. You can know an avoider by the willingness to take charge that is until there is a big wind, and then they hand over the helm, relinquish control, and fade as far into the background as possible.
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Tags: Accountability, Avoiders, Behavioral Patterns, Coaching, Communication, Conflict, Consulting, family patterns, Family-Based Patterns, Leaders, Leadership, leadership programs, Neuroscience, pattern aware, Patterns, Psychology, Transformation
Posted in Accountability, Avoider, Coaching, Communication, Conflict, Fear, Honor, Integrity, Leaders, Leadership, Management, Neuroscience, PatternAware, Patterns, Psychology, Team Building, Transformation | No Comments »
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